How do you find relief? When is the last time you had a moment of calm silenece? It's so rare. I reckon we set our standards and expectations so high that our experiences never meet them thus turning us into superiority creaving monsters.
That's why we can't get rest.
"I need to pull my shit together." rings backs over and over again in my head." echoing in our heads we can't help but hurry and worry.
Stop, cool out and breathe. Have a piece of mind and then move on.